Recently I worked with a woman who was having severe PMS each month. It got to the point where her husband dreaded the week before her period almost as much as she did. She felt out of control and was so frustrated that her hormones were controlling her, rather than the other way around.
Arvigo techniques of Maya Abdominal Massage
I introduced her to the Arvigo techniques of Maya Abdominal Massage. A gentle yet deep massage on her belly and back that helped release a lot of the tension she was holding without even knowing it.
Like with all my clients, I taught her how to massage her own belly as a self care practise and to maintain good blood and energy flow to her uterus and ovaries and improve her digestion. She was concerned it would take too long but I assured her it was 5 minutes a day at the most.
We talked about the stress in her life – a full time job, husband, 3 kids under the age of 10 and paying more attention to her cycle. Actively planning for less activity when she was bleeding, journaling the week before her period about what was irritating her so much and daily awareness of her mood.
- Take a few moments each month to write down what is actually bothering you. Is it the same person every month or the same issue that keeps coming up? DON’T try to deal with it during the heat of the moment but leave it for a couple of weeks till you are around ovulation and you can discuss it in a calmer and less confrontational way.
- Plan some quiet time while you are bleeding. Ideally a whole day but if not, a minimum of one quiet hour by yourself while you are bleeding to relax and let go of some of your daily stress.
Ask for what you need
When we are pre-menstrual (the days leading up to bleeding), it can feel like the mask between us and the outside world is much thinner which means it’s a great time for gaining insight.
Pay attention to those thoughts, feelings and ideas that seem to appear out of nowhere. After you start to acknowledge those feelings and ideas you can start to act on them. That might involve asking for what you need – another important skill many women need to learn.
I like to suggest finding one small thing you know will improve the quality of your life and asking for it. First give yourself permission to receive it, then ask for it. And be open to the possibility of receiving it.
Two months later she was ecstatic.
Firstly, her period was lighter and easier with little to no cramping or pain (yeah!) but more importantly the week before her period was completely manageable. She started asking for what she needed. She lowered her level of activity while she was bleeding and it was helping her entire cycle. She continued to do the self care massage at home and was taking joy in having a few minutes each day to care for herself in this way.
She wrote down the things which were bothering her the week before her cycle and that release helped her. In fact, journaling became another important tool to managing her stress, emotions and her cycle.
If you’re interested in learning more about how I can help you improve your cycle, balance your hormones and enjoy your life with less stress and more joy, call me on 054-575-4032.