by annette | Jul 21, 2020 | Pregnancy
Pregnancy after a loss can be really challenging. Since it’s estimated about 1 in 8 pregnancies end in miscarriage, that means as a woman trying to conceive, you may be dealing with a pregnancy after a loss. I often work with clients who have had a miscarriage in the past and for many it has been coupled with challenges getting pregnant in the first place. Believing that you are pregnant: When you finally get pregnant after a miscarriage and/or fertility challenge it can be really hard to believe that you’re pregnant again but also really challenging to trust that your body is going to be able to nurture your baby all the way to the end of the pregnancy and you’ll one day hold a baby in your arms. The truth is I’ve been through this myself, just like many other women. I had a miscarriage in the second trimester and yes it was traumatic and the pregnancy that followed the loss brought with it many challenges. Since that personal experience, I have supported tens of women during pregnancy after pregnancy loss so I’m going to offer some suggestions. How can I restore confidence in my own body? What I’ve learned over the years is there are different ways to support women in this situation, to help restore your confidence in your body, to build a connection with the growing foetus in your belly in spite of your fears of another pregnancy loss. Some common blocks: Often women who are pregnant after a loss don’t want to believe that the new pregnancy is real until a certain point. Sometimes it’s after the first detailed ultrasound around 12 or 13 weeks, or the same week you lost a previous pregnancy or sometimes even the birth itself. The problem is that for many women, if you don’t believe in the pregnancy and form that connection with your baby even when they are only a few weeks in gestational age then you’re doing yourself and your baby a disservice. More and more research is emerging showing the importance of the connections and experiences during pregnancy. Whether we want to admit it or not, babies can and do feel while they are in utero and they are especially sensitive to a woman’s emotional state. My understanding is that the underlying emotion here is fear: fear that the pregnancy will end, fear there is something wrong with the baby and sometimes vague unknown fears. Here’s how to overcome these fears: I find that giving a voice to these concerns during a reflexology or Arvigo treatment can help release them. The combination of being in a relaxed state, allows you to voice those unconscious fears and release them as well as find creative ways to improve your confidence in the pregnancy and bond with your baby. Bach Flower Remedies Aspen (for unknown, vague fears) and Mimulus (for known fears) are super helpful in reducing fears. Bach Flower remedies are safe to take during pregnancy. They help change your energetic state and help you become more positive about the pregnancy. In addition to addressing fears, Larch can improve self confidence and Cerato can allow you to be more in touch with your intuition and inner voice. I encourage women to journal their feelings. There is so much power in putting pen to paper, writing out what is bothering you and naming the emotions you are feeling. It can feel like a therapeutic release. EFT Tapping can be used on practically any emotional or physical issue, without risk of any known side effects. It’s a simple and effective technique that can be learnt very quickly and can be used for self-help. These are just some ways that you can improve your feelings about pregnancy after a loss. If you’d like to hear more about treatments before, during and after pregnancy, feel free to contact me HERE. Be in touch with me Please send me your questions via this form: Phone: 054-575-4032 Email: annette@annette.co.il Address: Yael Hagibora, Modi’in Name Email Address Message Submit...
by annette | Jul 12, 2020 | Fertility
Are you one of those women who have been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant month after month only to be disappointed? Do you feel like you are doing everything right – timing for conception, eating well and there’s no real explanation for why you’re not conceiving? Or you know there is a problem but fertility treatments aren’t succeeding? It can be so frustrating as you watch each month pass and holding a wriggling baby in your arms seems to be getting further away instead of closer. Through my work helping women increase their chances of getting pregnant, I have discovered that it’s so much more complex than just getting the sperm to meet the egg! Even when all the physical factors are in place, sometimes it just doesn’t work. If you have a fertility related diagnosis like Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, anovulation, High FSH and/or you’re over the age of 35 year it can make it even more challenging. .Your mindset and beliefs play an important part in getting pregnant Let’s see how they can help you. Visualise the pregnancy and baby after birth: I often ask my clients if they can picture their belly swelling month after month during pregnancy, can they picture themselves holding the baby they are trying so hard to conceive? If they can imagine their family unit (or just themselves if they are going solo on this journey) expanding and a cute little baby joining? Why is being able to visualise this important? You don’t start building a house without an architect’s plan, right? Whenever you want to achieve something, it helps to have a goal and to be able to really SEE it in your head before you even begin. Our minds are so powerful and when we are focussed on a goal without unconscious blocks (we’ll get to them in a moment) then our mind will help us get there. If you can’t even visualise that goal clearly, it may be showing their is some work to do to clear those unconscious blocks and help you achieve your goal. What are you resisting? You would be surprised how difficult visualising the above scenarios can be for many women and not surprisingly it may indicate there is some kind of resistance going on. We often say we want things when deep down we don’t really want it. We may not have even acknowledged this hidden feeling because we’re so invested in pursuing motherhood, our culture places so much importance on having several children and also due to our partner’s desire for a child. I have had women in the middle of IVF cycles say that they are unsure they really want to get pregnant. Why would someone go to such lengths if she didn’t really want to have a baby? Some common blocks: After discussing this with dozens of women here are some common blocks that might be blocking YOU from conceiving, too: You’re scared you won’t be a good mother (very common if you had a challenging childhood) You’re worried about the challenges of combining motherhood and a career You’re concerned how her body may change during a pregnancy You’re worried how their relationship with a partner may change once a child joins the family You’re worried about the actual birth and how they will cope Each woman has her own reasons and whatever your reason may be, it’s your legitimate reason. The question then becomes how to deal with it. I like to use EFT Tapping, a simple technique that is sometimes described as psychological acupuncture. Using light tapping on points on your face and upper body, we can help uncover what these blocks might be, help you overcome them and move on to successfully conceiving your baby. Be in touch with me Please send me your questions via this form: Phone: 054-575-4032 Email: annette@annette.co.il Address: Yael Hagibora, Modi’in Name Email Address Message Submit...
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